What can I do for him? He's struggling in school. He's so smart but so easily distratracted. His teacher rides him that gets him down. We have to ride him at home and that makes him sad. He makes friends but often tells me that kids are mean to him. How is he not the most beloved child at the school. I want him to be blissfully happy. I want to make everyone see in him what I see. Any ideas? I'm worried about him.Thursday, October 8, 2009
What to do?
Hello my name is Leah and I am a worrier. Maybe I'm the only one out there who feels this way but seriously I worry about everything. I worry when my kids are at home that they are missing out at school. I worry when they are in school that they are learning things they shouldn't. I worry that I'm not nice enough. I worry that I don't discipline enough. I worry that my kids don't have enough friends or that they are too social. I worry that I'm not doing enough in my calling or that I'm spending too much time on it and not enough with my kids. I worry that my kids don't know how much I love them and I worry that I smother them. I worry that my brothers and sisters don't know how much I love them let alone how much I enjoy each of them and their fabulous choices in spouses. I worry that I am a bad friend and don't spend enough time on my friendships. I worry that my kids don't get to spend enough time with their grandparents. I worry that they won't know their cousins as well as I wish they did. I worry that my husbands family doesn't know how much I love them and wish that we were closer. I could go on and on. But, right now my biggest worry is this little man. This sweet wonderful beautiful amazing funny little boy.
What can I do for him? He's struggling in school. He's so smart but so easily distratracted. His teacher rides him that gets him down. We have to ride him at home and that makes him sad. He makes friends but often tells me that kids are mean to him. How is he not the most beloved child at the school. I want him to be blissfully happy. I want to make everyone see in him what I see. Any ideas? I'm worried about him.
What can I do for him? He's struggling in school. He's so smart but so easily distratracted. His teacher rides him that gets him down. We have to ride him at home and that makes him sad. He makes friends but often tells me that kids are mean to him. How is he not the most beloved child at the school. I want him to be blissfully happy. I want to make everyone see in him what I see. Any ideas? I'm worried about him.
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Oh goodness, my high water table is at it's limit! We all have the previous worries that you mentioned, and I can sympathize with you about sweet, funny, smart Ryne! Mine is in the same boat....what to do?
Thanks Maria (I assume this wasn't from Ryan. It helps knowing other people are feeling the same. We miss you guys!
Leah,
One thing I am sure, is that you are a good mom. I always worried about Courtney and just tried to have a home where she felt treasured and was a soft place to fall. I thought that if that place was good she could withstand anything. She is 21 and amazingly competent, kind, and accomplished. She has become a place where I feel treasured and where I have a soft place to fall. Sometimes the ones we most worry over because of challenges are really learning more that everyone else.
Hope this helps
love
t
You are in good company. We all worry no matter what the circumstances are. My biggest worry right now is that my oldest is a worrier. Silly, isn't it? She's scared of absolutely everything and wants absolutely no attention drawn to herself. All kids have their issues- if it isn't one thing, it's another. However, I know that with the parents your kids have, they can't go wrong.
Terri
Thank you so much. That helps more than you know. It's so hard to watch them struggle. I hope he knows how much we treasure and love him. Thanks for the advice I really appreciate it.
Leah
Karen
I worry that my kids will worry. Does it ever stop, it's a vicious cycle.
Leah, Leah Leah! Over the past 7 years I've become an expert on the Fosse Family Worries! It's in your nature to worry. I see it in all your family especially in Drew. The good thing about it is you have your families well being at the center of your heart and if that's the case I really feel that our kids will be alright. Wynn is easily distracted too and we are constantly pressuring him to hurry up or pay attention. I've been trying to be more patient and let him take his time and hope that that helps. I'm actually glad to hear that we have similar concerns. It makes dealing with them that much easier. Good Luck.
Christy you know us so well. The Fosses are cursed. I'm trying to be more patient and understanding too. Here's to hoping that helps!
This post made me cry. I too am a worrier as you well know. I know that feeling of worry over a child. Trust that you are the best mother for Ryne. Believe that the really important things we are suppose to learn in this life aren't taught in second grade. I believe in you and I know what a wonderful, bright, sweet boy Ryne is and he will be more than fine, he will be great.
How much we love our Ryne! Children can be a constant worry, whether near or far away; whether living at home or out on their own. Just keep working with him. He is going to make it. It is difficult to be the only boy with two sisters. Find his strengths and make sure he gets praised for something every day.
I love Terri. I loved that response. Isn't it a relief to know that all of our hard work now just might pay off in the end. How cool.
Just remember to do the best YOU know how to do and try not to compare yourself with any other mother. That's my downfall.
Pray hard butt lard;) - because parenting is between you and the Lord and so is pretty much everything else.
I hope Ryne feels happier soon. It sucks to hear when crap go on around them. He's a cutey kid.
Jenni - thanks for the remoinder to pray. I think sometimes I forget that the Lord is interested in what I'm going through.
Tessi - I wish you were here and we could worry together.
Diane - you're right it's hard for boys when they are sorrounded by girls. Especially the over acheiving sister kind of girls.
I waited to respond as I had no great wisdom to share :) I worry too, especially about my kids.....some more than others. I wish growing up was easier, but I think it just stinks at times. I loved the reminder of prayer someone offered, silly but I forget to pray for the simple things in my family. We love Ryne, he's just a cute kid! Well I love all your kids and miss em' too! I pray he has happier days and feels loved!
Give him an axe, or am machete, he'll perk right up.
Fax
I totally cried too when reading this. Downside ... I'm at work! I worry all the time too that your kids don't know how much we love them and wish we were more involved in their lives. I'm sad to hear that Ryne is having a rough time of it (Ryne!!) ... some Buhler advice though (my parents' tools, not mine, mind you) is to give him a chance to reach some goals. My parents did this with me when I was struggling in all of our moves, in school, or being teasted (let me tell you about that sometime) and it really helped me begin to focus on things that I could do, on my talents, and my progress. Then, I didn't notice what other people thought - and when I did take notice, most of the time they were nicer ... One thing that I do know is that you are an AMAZING mom, and your kids KNOW that you love them. With that and the guidance of the Spirit on your side, you all will pull through this stronger on the other side. Love and miss you so much,
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Leah
Devon for years has been in the same situtation. Kids would tease him for being larger then most kids. He is a loving tedding Bear and wants to be liked all the time. I always wondered what would happen and when he would grow out of it. This year he hasn't been to the principles office or kicked out by his teacher. There is a room mom and his own teacher that love him and adore him so much. He is the best and most wonderful kid in his class. It takes one good person to see the best in the child or person to make them even stronger and believe in himself. Leah be patient things will all work out. don't worry your selfself out. Things will happen no matter what and they have to learn and grow within them selfs. Be an example be there for them no matter what and you will always be a great mom and support for all of your children. I feel your pain and we defantly feel our childrens.
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